Honor never grows old, and honor
rejoices the heart of age. It does so because honor is, finally, about
defending those noble and worthy things that deserve defending, even if
it comes at a high cost. In our time, that may mean social disapproval,
public scorn, hardship, persecution, or as always, even death itself. The
question remains: What is worth defending? What is worth dying for?
What is worth living for? - William J. Bennett - in a lecture to the
United States Naval Academy November 24, 1997
One Vietnam veteran, an old retired colonel, once said this to me:
" Most of the people in our society
are sheep. They are kind, gentle, productive creatures who can only hurt
one another by accident." This is true. Remember, the murder rate
is six per 100,000 per year, and the aggravated assault rate is four per
1,000 per year. What this means is that the vast majority of Americans
are not inclined to hurt one another. Some estimates say that two
million Americans are victims of violent crimes every year, a tragic,
staggering number, perhaps an all-time record rate of violent crime. But
there are almost 300 million Americans, which means that the odds of
being a victim of violent crime is considerably less than one in a
hundred on any given year. Furthermore, since many violent crimes are
committed by repeat offenders, the actual number of violent citizens is
considerably less than two million.
Thus there is a paradox, and we must
grasp both ends of the situation: We may well be in the most violent
times in history, but violence is still remarkably rare. This is because
most citizens are kind, decent people who are not capable of hurting
each other, except by accident or under extreme provocation. They are
sheep.
I mean nothing negative by calling them
sheep. To me it is like the pretty, blue robin's egg. Inside it is soft
and gooey but someday it will grow into something wonderful. But the egg
cannot survive without its hard blue shell. Police officers, soldiers,
and other warriors are like that shell, and someday the civilization
they protect will grow into something wonderful. For now, though, they
need warriors to protect them from the predators.
"Then there are the wolves," the old war
veteran said, "and the wolves feed on the sheep without mercy." Do you
believe there are wolves out there who will feed on the flock without
mercy? You better believe it. There are evil men in this world and they
are capable of evil deeds. The moment you forget that or pretend it is
not so, you become a sheep. There is no safety in denial.
" Then there are sheepdogs,
" he went on, " and I'm a sheepdog. I live to protect the flock and confront the wolf."
If you have no capacity for violence
then you are a healthy productive citizen, a sheep. If you have a
capacity for violence and no empathy for your fellow citizens, then you
have defined an aggressive sociopath, a wolf. But what if you have a
capacity for violence, and a deep love for your fellow citizens? What do
you have then? A sheepdog, a warrior, someone who is walking the hero's
path. Someone who can walk into the heart of darkness, into the
universal human phobia, and walk out unscathed.
Let me expand on this old soldier's
excellent model of the sheep, wolves, and sheepdogs. We know that the
sheep live in denial, which is what makes them sheep. They do not want to
believe that there is evil in the world. They can accept the fact that
fires can happen, which is why they want fire extinguishers, fire
sprinklers, fire alarms and fire exits throughout their kids' schools.
But many of them are outraged at the
idea of putting an armed police officer in their kid's school. Our
children are thousands of times more likely to be killed or seriously
injured by school violence than fire, but the sheep's only response to
the possibility of violence is denial. The idea of someone coming to
kill or harm their child is just too hard, and so they chose the path of
denial.
The sheep generally do not like the
sheepdog. He looks a lot like the wolf. He has fangs and the capacity
for violence. The difference, though, is that the sheepdog must not,
cannot and will not ever harm the sheep. Any sheep dog who intentionally
harms the lowliest little lamb will be punished and removed. The world
cannot work any other way, at least not in a representative democracy or
a republic such as ours.
Still, the sheepdog disturbs the sheep.
He is a constant reminder that there are wolves in the land. They would
prefer that he didn't tell them where to go, or give them traffic
tickets, or stand at the ready in our airports in camouflage fatigues
holding an M-16. The sheep would much rather have the sheepdog cash in
his fangs, spray paint himself white, and go, "Baa."
Until the wolf shows up. Then the entire
flock tries desperately to hide behind one lonely sheepdog.
The students, the victims, at Columbine
High School were big, tough high school students, and under ordinary
circumstances they would not have had the time of day for a police
officer. They were not bad kids; they just had nothing to say to a cop.
When the school was under attack, however, and SWAT teams were clearing
the rooms and hallways, the officers had to physically peel those
clinging, sobbing kids off of them. This is how the little lambs feel
about their sheepdog when the wolf is at the door.
Look at what happened after September
11, 2001 when the wolf pounded hard on the door. Remember how America,
more than ever before, felt differently about their law enforcement
officers and military personnel? Remember how many times you heard the
word hero?
Understand that there is nothing morally
superior about being a sheepdog; it is just what you choose to be. Also
understand that a sheepdog is a funny critter: He is always sniffing
around out on the perimeter, checking the breeze, barking at things that
go bump in the night, and yearning for a righteous battle. That is, the
young sheepdogs yearn for a righteous battle. The old sheepdogs are a
little older and wiser, but they move to the sound of the guns when
needed right along with the young ones.
Here is how the sheep and the sheepdog
think differently. The sheep pretend the wolf will never come, but the
sheepdog lives for that day. After the attacks on September 11, 2001,
most of the sheep, that is, most citizens in America said, "Thank God I
wasn't on one of those planes." The sheepdogs, the warriors, said, "Dear
God, I wish I could have been on one of those planes. Maybe I could
have made a difference." When you are truly transformed into a warrior
and have truly invested yourself into warrior-hood, you want to be there.
You want to be able to make a difference.
There is nothing morally superior about
the sheepdog, the warrior, but he does have one real advantage. Only
one. And that is that he is able to survive and thrive in an environment
that destroys 98 percent of the population. There was research
conducted a few years ago with individuals convicted of violent crimes.
These cons were in prison for serious, predatory crimes of violence:
assaults, murders and killing law enforcement officers. The vast
majority said that they specifically targeted victims by body language:
slumped walk, passive behavior and lack of awareness. They chose their
victims like big cats do in Africa, when they select one out of the herd
that is least able to protect itself.
Some people may be destined to be sheep
and others might be genetically primed to be wolves or sheepdogs. But I
believe that most people can choose which one they want to be, and I'm
proud to say that more and more Americans are choosing to become
sheepdogs.
Seven months after the attack on
September 11, 2001, Todd Beamer was honored in his hometown of Cranbury,
New Jersey. Todd, as you recall, was the man on Flight 93 over
Pennsylvania who called on his cell phone to alert an operator from
United Airlines about the hijacking. When he learned of the other three
passenger planes that had been used as weapons, Todd dropped his phone
and uttered the words, "Let's roll," which authorities believe was a
signal to the other passengers to confront the terrorist hijackers. In
one hour, a transformation occurred among the passengers - athletes,
business people and parents. -- From sheep to sheepdogs and together
they fought the wolves, ultimately saving an unknown number of lives on
the ground.
" There is no safety for honest men except by believing all possible evil of evil men." - Edmund Burke
Here is the point I like to emphasize,
especially to the thousands of police officers and soldiers I speak to
each year. In nature the sheep, real sheep, are born as sheep. Sheepdogs
are born that way, and so are wolves. They didn't have a choice. But
you are not a critter. As a human being, you can be whatever you want to
be. It is a conscious, moral decision.
If you want to be a sheep, then you can
be a sheep and that is okay, but you must understand the price you pay.
When the wolf comes, you and your loved ones are going to die if there
is not a sheepdog there to protect you. If you want to be a wolf, you
can be one, but the sheepdogs are going to hunt you down and you will
never have rest, safety, trust or love. But if you want to be a sheepdog
and walk the warrior's path, then you must make a conscious and moral
decision every day to dedicate, equip and prepare yourself to thrive in
that toxic, corrosive moment when the wolf comes knocking at the door.
For example, many officers carry their
weapons in church. They are well concealed in ankle holsters, shoulder
holsters or inside-the-belt holsters tucked into the small of their
backs. Anytime you go to some form of religious service, there is a
very good chance that a police officer in your congregation is carrying.
You will never know if there is such an individual in your place of
worship, until the wolf appears to massacre you and your loved ones.
I was training a group of police
officers in Texas, and during the break, one officer asked his friend if
he carried his weapon in church. The other cop replied, "I will never
be caught without my gun in church." I asked why he felt so strongly
about this, and he told me about a cop he knew who was at a church
massacre in Ft. Worth, Texas in 1999. In that incident, a mentally
deranged individual came into the church and opened fire, gunning down
fourteen people. He said that officer believed he could have saved every
life that day if he had been carrying his gun. His own son was shot,
and all he could do was throw himself on the boy's body and wait to die.
That cop looked me in the eye and said, "Do you have any idea how hard
it would be to live with yourself after that?"
Some individuals would be horrified if
they knew this police officer was carrying a weapon in church. They
might call him paranoid and would probably scorn him. Yet these same
individuals would be enraged and would call for "heads to roll" if they
found out that the airbags in their cars were defective, or that the
fire extinguisher and fire sprinklers in their kids' school did not
work. They can accept the fact that fires and traffic accidents can
happen and that there must be safeguards against them.
Their only response to the wolf, though,
is denial, and all too often their response to the sheepdog is scorn
and disdain. But the sheepdog quietly asks himself, "Do you have any
idea how hard it would be to live with yourself if your loved ones
attacked and killed, and you had to stand there helplessly because you
were unprepared for that day?"
It is denial that turns people into
sheep. Sheep are psychologically destroyed by combat because their only
defense is denial, which is counterproductive and destructive, resulting
in fear, helplessness and horror when the wolf shows up.
Denial kills you twice. It kills you
once, at your moment of truth when you are not physically prepared: you
didn't bring your gun, you didn't train. Your only defense was wishful
thinking. Hope is not a strategy. Denial kills you a second time because
even if you do physically survive, you are psychologically shattered by
your fear helplessness and horror at your moment of truth.
Gavin de Becker puts it like this in
Fear Less, his superb post-9/11 book, which should be required reading
for anyone trying to come to terms with our current world situation:
"...denial can be seductive, but it has an insidious side effect. For
all the peace of mind deniers think they get by saying it isn't so, the
fall they take when faced with new violence is all the more unsettling."
Denial is a save-now-pay-later scheme, a
contract written entirely in small print, for in the long run, the
denying person knows the truth on some level.
And so the warrior must strive to
confront denial in all aspects of his life, and prepare himself for the
day when evil comes. If you are warrior who is legally authorized to
carry a weapon and you step outside without that weapon, then you become
a sheep, pretending that the bad man will not come today. No one can be
"on" 24/7, for a lifetime. Everyone needs down time. But if you are
authorized to carry a weapon, and you walk outside without it, just take
a deep breath, and say this to yourself...
" Baa.
"
This business of being a sheep or a
sheep dog is not a yes-no dichotomy. It is not an all-or-nothing,
either-or choice. It is a matter of degrees, a continuum. On one end is
an abject, head-in-the-sand-sheep and on the other end is the ultimate
warrior. Few people exist completely on one end or the other. Most of us
live somewhere in between. Since 9-11 almost everyone in America took a
step up that continuum, away from denial. The sheep took a few steps
toward accepting and appreciating their warriors, and the warriors
started taking their job more seriously. The degree to which you move up
that continuum, away from sheephood
and denial, is the degree to which
you and your loved ones will survive, physically and psychologically at
your moment of truth.
Ref: LTC (RET) Dave Grossman
, Author of "On Killing.".